Book Club Guide
Read Together,
Grow Together
Everything you need to guide your group through The Modern Marriage Dilemma — discussion questions, activity ideas, and a downloadable guide.
This guide is designed for small groups, women's Bible studies, and church groups. Each section corresponds to a key theme in the book. Move at your own pace — there's no rush. The goal is honest reflection, gentle healing, and deeper connection with God and each other.
Discussion Guide
Questions by Theme
Where Does Your View Come From?
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What messages about submission did you receive growing up — from family, church, and culture?
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How have those messages shaped your expectations of marriage?
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When you hear the word "submission," what is your immediate emotional response? Why?
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Sarah writes about being "shaped by cultural messages about independence." How has independence been both a gift and a challenge in your life?
God's Heart Behind the Design
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What does Scripture actually say about submission? What surprised you in Sarah's exploration?
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How does understanding God's character change the way you read passages about marriage?
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Sarah invites us to see submission "in a whole new light." What felt new or different to you?
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Where do you see love, protection, and partnership in God's design for marriage?
Healing from Wounds
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Have past experiences made it difficult to trust the idea of biblical submission? You don't have to share details — just reflect.
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How can we hold space for both honesty about our wounds and hope for healing?
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What would it look like to approach this topic with gentleness toward yourself and others?
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Where have you already seen God bringing healing in your life or marriage?
Deeper Connection & Purpose
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What would "deeper connection" in your marriage look like for you personally?
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How might seeing submission differently change the way you communicate with your spouse?
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What is one actionable step from the book you want to practice this week?
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How can this group continue to support each other beyond this study?
Group Activities
Ways to Go Deeper
Honest Reflection Journals
Before each session, spend 10 minutes journaling your personal reflections on the chapter. Come ready to share one insight.
Prayer Partners
Pair up and commit to praying for each other's marriages throughout the week. Share prayer requests at each meeting.
Scripture Study Together
Read the biblical passages Sarah references aloud as a group. Discuss what each verse reveals about God's heart.
Download the Guide
Print this discussion guide for your group or save it for easy reference during your meetings.